Dictionary

A
(14)
Abrasion Play

Sensation play involving rough textures against the skin

Aftercare

Emotional and physical care provided after intense scenes

Age Play

Consensual roleplay involving different age dynamics

Agender

Gender identity not defined within male or female categories

All-Rubber Look

Complete outfit made primarily from rubber or latex

Anal Hook

Curved metal device used in BDSM restraint scenarios

Anal Sex

Sexual activity involving the anus

Anilingus

Oral stimulation of the anus

Aphrodisiac

Substance or stimulus believed to increase sexual desire

Arm Sleeves

Latex or leather coverings worn on the arms

Armbinder

Restraint device keeping arms secured behind the back

Asphyxiation Play

Risky activity involving restricted breathing during intimacy

Audio Erotica

Sexual storytelling or sound-based erotic media

Autogynephilia

Term used in some psychological discussions regarding arousal and femininity

B
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Babydoll

Short loose nightwear often associated with lingerie fashion

Ballgag

Mouth restraint designed to limit speech during BDSM play

BDSM

Umbrella term covering bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism and masochism

Bedroom Restraints

Restraint systems designed for bed attachment

Binaural Beats

Audio frequencies sometimes used for relaxation or mood setting

Bisexual

Attraction to more than one gender

Bit Gag

A gag shaped like a horse bit placed between the teeth

Blindfold

Covering for the eyes used to remove visual awareness

Body Harness

Harness designed to wrap around the torso and shoulders

Body Modification

Intentional alteration of the body such as tattoos or piercings

Body Stocking

Stretch garment covering large parts of the body

Bondage Mittens

Restrictive gloves limiting hand movement

Bondage Tape

Self-adhesive tape used for restraint without sticking to skin

Boot Worship

Admiration or focus on boots within fetish contexts

Bootblack

Person who shines and maintains leather gear within leather culture

Bottom

Person receiving an action during BDSM play

Brat

Submissive who playfully resists authority

Breast Bondage

Rope or restraint techniques focused on the chest

Breath Control

Consensual activities involving controlled breathing restrictions

Breathplay

General term for consensual breathing control activities

Bullwhip

Long flexible whip used in advanced impact play

Buttplug

Sex toy designed for anal insertion

C
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Camming

Broadcasting live video content online

Cane

Rigid impact implement usually made from rattan

Catsuit

A one-piece tight-fitting suit covering most or all of the body

Chain Collar

Metal collar commonly used in fetish aesthetics

Chastity

Restriction of sexual access using devices or agreements

Chastity Cage

Device preventing erection or sexual stimulation

Chemsex

Use of substances in sexual settings

Chest Harness

Harness designed around the chest area

Clamps

Devices applying pressure to body parts for sensation

Closeted

Keeping one\'s sexuality or kink interests private

Cock Ring

Ring worn around the penis to restrict blood flow

Coil Mask

Mask featuring tubing or industrial styling

Collar

Neck accessory symbolising submission, ownership or fashion style

Compression Play

Applying pressure to the body for sensation or restraint

Condom

Barrier protection used during sex

Condom Catheter

External catheter sometimes used in medical or fetish settings

Consent

Clear agreement between participants regarding activities

Consent Violation

Ignoring or breaking agreed boundaries

Corset

Structured garment designed to shape the waist and torso

Crop

Flexible striking tool inspired by riding crops

Crossdressing

Wearing clothing traditionally associated with another gender

Crotch Rope

Rope technique applying pressure to the crotch area

Cruising

Searching for sexual or romantic partners in public or social spaces

Cuckolding

Relationship dynamic involving consensual outside sexual activity

Cuffs

Restraints placed around wrists or ankles

Cum Control

Orgasm regulation within consensual dynamics

Cybersex

Sexual interaction through digital communication

D
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D-ring

Metal ring attachment point used on restraints and harnesses

Daddy Dom

Dominant role using nurturing or parental themes

Deepthroat

Oral sex involving deep penetration of the throat

Degradation Play

Consensual play involving insulting or degrading language

Denial

Preventing orgasm or stimulation as part of play

Dental Dam

Barrier sheet used during oral sex

Discipline

Rules and punishment structures within BDSM

Dom/Sub Dynamic

Relationship structure involving dominance and submission

Dominant

Person taking a controlling or leading role in BDSM activities

Double Penetration

Sexual activity involving simultaneous penetration

Drag

Performance art involving exaggerated gender presentation

Dressing Aid

Lubricant or powder used to help put on tight latex garments

Dungeon

A dedicated BDSM playroom or event space

Dungeon Monitor

Person responsible for safety oversight at BDSM events

E
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Edge Play

Activities involving heightened psychological or physical intensity

Edging

Delaying orgasm repeatedly to intensify sensation

Electro Play

Use of controlled electrical stimulation for sensation

Encasement

Being fully covered in latex, rubber or similar materials

Endorphins

Natural chemicals released during intense physical activity or pleasure

Erogenous Zone

Sensitive area of the body associated with arousal

Exhibition Play

Consensual public display or semi-public scenes

Exhibitionism

Enjoyment of being watched by others

F
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Face Sitting

Sitting on a partner\'s face for dominance or oral stimulation

Femdom

Female-led dominance dynamic

Fetish

Strong interest in a specific object, material or activity

Fetish Wear

Clothing associated with fetish fashion or subcultures

Fetlife

Online social network focused on BDSM and fetish communities

Fingering

Manual stimulation using fingers

Fishnet

Open-weave fabric commonly used in alternative fashion

Fisting

Sexual activity involving insertion of the hand

Flogger

Multi-tailed impact tool used in BDSM scenes

Fluid Bonding

Agreement to exchange bodily fluids exclusively with certain partners

Foot Fetish

Attraction focused on feet or footwear

Forced Orgasm

Consensual play involving repeated stimulation beyond climax

Foreplay

Intimate activity before sexual intercourse

French Maid Outfit

Roleplay costume associated with service fantasies

Frotteurism

Arousal from rubbing against another person

Full Hood

Head-covering hood with minimal exposed skin

G
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G-string

Minimal style of underwear

Gag

Gag

Gasmask

Protective face equipment sometimes used in industrial or fetish aesthetics

Genderfluid

Gender identity that changes over time

Genital Piercing

Piercing located on or around genital areas

Glory Hole

Partition opening used for anonymous sexual interaction

Gooning

Extended state of intense sexual focus or stimulation

Goth Fetish

Combination of gothic aesthetics and fetish culture

H
(11)
Hand Fetish

Attraction focused on hands or gloves

Handjob

Manual stimulation of the penis

Handler

Person guiding or controlling a participant in pet play

Hard Limit

Activity that is completely off-limits

Harness

Strapped body accessory commonly used in BDSM fashion and play

Hentai

Japanese animated or illustrated erotic media

High Protocol

Strict behavioural structure within BDSM relationships

Hogtie

Bondage position securing wrists and ankles together

Hood

A mask covering the head, often made from latex, leather or neoprene

Houseboy

Submissive role involving domestic service

Humiliation Play

Consensual psychological play involving embarrassment themes

I
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Impact Play

Activities involving striking such as spanking or paddling

Impact Toy

General term for spanking or striking implements

Industrial Fetish

Aesthetic focused on gasmasks, rubber and industrial gear

Intersex

Natural variation in sex characteristics

K
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Katheter Play

Use of medical catheters within consensual fetish activity

Kink

Non-traditional sexual interest or practice

Kneeling Cushion

Pad used during kneeling or service positions

Knife Play

Consensual sensation play involving blades without cutting

L
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Latex

A shiny elastic material used for clothing, masks, gloves and fetish wear

Latex Care

Cleaning and maintenance process for latex garments

Latex Hood

Head-covering garment made from latex

Latex Sheet

Rubber bedding sheet used for protection or sensation

Latex Socks

Tight socks made from latex material

Latex Vacuum Cube

Inflatable vacuum restraint device

Leash

Strap attached to a collar for roleplay or symbolic control

Leather Boots

Heavy boots associated with punk, skinhead and fetish cultures

Leather Culture

Subculture associated with leather clothing and BDSM communities

Leather Paddle

Impact toy made from leather

Leather Puppy Hood

Dog-inspired hood used in pup play

Lifestyle BDSM

Long-term integration of BDSM into daily life

Limits

Activities a participant does not want to engage in

Lingerie

Decorative or intimate undergarments

Locking Collar

Collar designed with a locking mechanism

Lubricant

Product reducing friction during sexual activity

M
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Mask Fetish

Interest in masks or concealed identities

Master

Honorific sometimes used for a dominant partner

Medical Fetish

Interest in medical themes, uniforms or procedures

Mesh Shirt

Semi-transparent shirt often used in fetish fashion

Mistress

Female dominant title used in BDSM relationships

Mistress Boots

Tall boots associated with dominant fashion aesthetics

Monogamy

Relationship involving exclusive romantic or sexual partners

Mooning

Exposing bare buttocks as a joke or fetish act

Mummification

Wrapping the body in materials such as latex or plastic

Munch

Casual non-play social meetup for kink communities

Muscle Worship

Admiration focused on muscular physiques

Mutual Masturbation

Partners stimulating themselves together

Muzzle Gag

Gag strapped over the mouth resembling an animal muzzle

N
(4)
Negotiation

Discussion of boundaries and consent before play

Neoprene

Synthetic rubber material used in wetsuits and fetish clothing

Nipple Clamps

Devices applying pressure to the nipples

Non-Binary

Gender identity outside male or female categories

O
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Objectification

Consensual treatment of a person as an object within play

Open Relationship

Relationship allowing outside romantic or sexual experiences

Oral Sex

Sexual stimulation using the mouth

Orgasm

Peak sexual pleasure response

Orgasm Denial

Preventing climax as part of consensual control dynamics

P
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Paddle

Flat implement used in impact play

Pegging

Sexual activity involving strap-on penetration

Pet Play

Roleplay where participants act as animals or handlers

Pheromones

Chemical signals associated with attraction in some studies

Platform Boots

Boots with thick elevated soles

Play Party

Social gathering focused on BDSM or fetish activities

Play Piercing

Temporary piercing performed within consensual scenes

Pleasure Dom

Dominant focused on giving pleasure rather than punishment

Polyamory

Consensual involvement with multiple partners

Power Bottom

Bottom who retains strong control or energy during sex

Power Exchange

Consensual transfer of authority within a relationship

Praise Kink

Enjoyment of positive verbal reinforcement

Predicament Bondage

Bondage forcing difficult physical choices or balance

Primal Play

Instinctive roleplay focused on animalistic or natural behaviours

Protocol

Structured rules within a BDSM relationship or scene

PsyDom

Psychological dominance rather than physical control

Pup Play

Roleplay involving canine-inspired behaviour and gear

PVC

Synthetic glossy material commonly used in alternative and fetish fashion

Q
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Queening

Dominance act involving face sitting

Quick Release Knot

Safety knot designed for fast rope removal

R
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RACK

Risk-Aware Consensual Kink

Rimming

Oral stimulation of the anus

Roleplay

Acting out fictional roles or scenarios

Rope Bondage

Use of rope for restraint, decoration or artistic tying

Rubber

A material often associated with fetish clothing and industrial fashion culture

Rubber Gloves

Protective or fetish gloves made from latex or rubber

Rubber Hood

Head-covering hood made from rubber material

Rubber Sheet

Protective waterproof bedding layer

Rubberist

Person interested in rubber or latex culture

S
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Safe Word

Pre-agreed word used to pause or stop activity

Safer Sex

Practices aimed at reducing health risks during sex

Satin Fetish

Attraction to smooth shiny fabrics such as satin

Scat Play

Fetish involving feces

Scene

A BDSM session or organised fetish environment

Sensation Play

Focus on physical sensations rather than pain

Sensory Deprivation

Reduction of senses such as sight or hearing

Service Submission

Dynamic involving acts of service and obedience

Sex Swing

Suspended device supporting different sexual positions

Sex Toy

Object designed for sexual stimulation

Shibari

Japanese-inspired artistic rope bondage style

Shine Spray

Product used to polish and enhance the shine of latex clothing

Sissy

Roleplay identity involving feminisation themes

Slave

Consensual role focused on obedience and submission

Slave Contract

Symbolic written agreement within BDSM relationships

Sleeper Hood

Hood designed for extended wear with limited openings

Soft Limit

Activity approached cautiously or conditionally

Sounding

Insertion of rods into the urethra for stimulation

Spanking

Striking the body with the hand for sensation or discipline

Spit Play

Consensual use of saliva during intimacy

Spreader Bar

Bar used to keep limbs apart during restraint

SSC

A BDSM principle meaning Safe, Sane and Consensual

STI

Sexually transmitted infection

Stiletto Boots

Boots featuring thin high heels

Stocks

Wooden or metal restraint device for wrists or ankles

Straight Jacket

Restrictive garment immobilising the arms

Strap-On

Harness-mounted dildo used for penetration

Submissive

Person voluntarily giving control within BDSM dynamics

Subspace

Mental state sometimes experienced during intense scenes

Suspender Belt

Lingerie accessory holding stockings in place

Suspension

Rope bondage where the body is partially or fully lifted

Switch

Person who enjoys both dominant and submissive roles

Sybian

Motorised saddle-style stimulation machine

T
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Tactile Fetish

Attraction focused on touch and texture

Talcum Powder

Powder often used to prevent latex from sticking to itself

Tease and Denial

Alternating stimulation and restriction to build arousal

Temperature Play

Use of hot or cold sensations on the body

Thigh Boots

Boots extending above the knee

Tickling

Light touch stimulation used playfully or as sensation play

Top

Person performing an action during BDSM play

Total Power Exchange

Relationship structure involving extensive authority transfer

Trampling

Walking on a partner\'s body in consensual play

Transgender

Person whose gender identity differs from birth assignment

Tribadism

Genital rubbing between partners

U
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Uniform Fetish

Attraction to uniforms or authority clothing

V
(5)
Vac Bed

Inflatable latex restraint device creating pressure around the body

Vanilla

Term for non-kinky sexual preferences or activities

Vinyl Fetish

Attraction to glossy vinyl clothing and materials

Voyeur Cam

Camera setup intended for viewing intimate activity

Voyeurism

Enjoyment of watching others in intimate situations

W
(4)
Water Bondage

Bondage activities involving water environments

Watersports

Fetish involving urine play

Wax Play

Use of warm wax for controlled sensation play

Whipping Bench

Furniture designed for restraint during impact play

Z
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Zentai

Skin-tight full-body garment covering the entire body

Zipper Suit

Latex or rubber suit featuring long zip openings

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